Obsessed with winning...

Query: I agree and find enlightening your views of anger. However, I have a tendency to get locked into an obsessive mind frame when dealing with something like this. I have great difficulty moving on and forward, allowing the person to no longer control me. Can you make any suggestions to  help with this. It has really gotten to the point where several days are consumed with this anger and rehashing of events. Thanks, Sharon.

Reply: I'd wonder what is behind the obsession with the person with whom, you are angry, if I were you.

This could lead to some interesting insights.

What, for instance, is unacceptable about simply letting them "win"? E.g. in not getting your them to see your point of view. In not just letting things be?

What's the price you perceive in this?

Because, rationally, you probably agree that you cannot get your own way all of the time. Follow this train of thought for a while - see where it leads - and get back to me. Best wishes, Reg

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