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Some questions about anger
These are some questions which people have asked about anger -
Re-routing anger
Q. Is there any one book you would recommend that deals with the physical and emotional details of anger and how to reroute it?
A. The book that best suits you will depend on your personal tastes and I do not know of one that is so good it could be recommended to everyone. There are hundreds of books on anger. Most of them have the theme of what to do with angry feelings. I believe that this is missing the point.
From practical hands-
As suggested in the main anger section the key thing with anger is to deal with the 'hot buttons' the triggers that precipitate the angry feelings and thoughts. Once these triggers have been activated and you are feeling angry it is too late to do anything other than avoid making things worse, by acting out your anger, or working at calming yourself down.
For example, someone with the anger habit is a bit like someone who has the habit
of putting their finger on the hot-
But what if you spend your time, in between anger bouts, looking for better treatments
for burns or better ways of handling pain? Wouldn't it be better to learn to not
put your finger on the hot-
I suggest that you deal with your anger habit in two ways
1. Start recognising your hot buttons -
2. Understand the physiological and emotional changes that anger produces (in general,
the fight and flight response is engaged -
3. Deal with these symptoms -
Maybe there's light at the end of the tunnel!
Q. I have been struggling for so long -
A. Thanks for that nice message, Jackie. I'm glad the information has provided you with increased hope.
The theme of the info. on the site is that we can help ourselves -
Keep checking back, too. I update fairly regularly. You might also consider subscribing
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My husband's anger
Q. I think my husband has an anger problem. He loses his temper every week. He yells
at me and curses about small matters such as leaving a light on or putting something
on the wrong shelf or leaving the top off the milk bottle. How can I get him to address
his anger problem-
A. Sounds like you both need to have a chat with a marriage guidance counsellor. Now's the time to do it before things settle down in this route forever, too!
It's likely that his high expectations of married life didn't include things like having to negotiate and compromise and share duties! That's why I suggest that you address it as a joint issue rather than as his problem.
Anger is destroying my life!
Q. Thank you for your section on Anger! It is the best and freshest info I have read on the subject... particularly the section on "anger management" programs. I only hope I can begin to use this info to stop getting angry, as it is destroying my life! If you have any other help to offer me it will be deeply appreciated.
A. Many thanks for the great feedback, Gary. It's great to get that sort of message first thing on a Sunday morning!
I hope you also find it useful while you're actually putting the information into practical use. There will be extra pieces posted from time to time on the subject of anger. These are usually mentioned in our newsletter so it might be worthwhile subscribing to that.
You say "I only hope I can begin....'" Well you can begin... That's the easiest
piece, but... ...it's the sticking at it that counts -
Reg
Blog article about the Anger Habit
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